Three J Youth
Mentors Against Bullying
Draw the Line Bullying should never become something young people are simply expected to live with.
Stop Bullying. Start Building People Up.
Stop Bullying.

Be a Buddy. Not a Bully.

Mentors Against Bullying challenges young people to choose encouragement instead of cruelty, inclusion instead of isolation, and support instead of becoming part of the harm. How you treat someone can change the way they experience an entire day.

The Choice You can make someone feel smaller, or you can help them feel like they belong.
See What We Stand For ↓
Our Goal
More encouragement. More belonging. Less harm.
Leave This Behind Teasing. Exclusion. Humiliation. Harm.
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Choose This Instead Encouragement. Respect. Inclusion. Support.
For Our Mentors Be the Safe Person.
Support starts with presence.

Our mentors create safe spaces, remain available when youth need someone, pay attention when a young person may be struggling, and stand beside them while helping connect them with trusted adults or appropriate support when additional help is needed.

Remember Sometimes helping starts with noticing what everyone else missed.
The Culture We Create

Stopping Bullying Takes All of Us.

Mentors Against Bullying works from both directions. Young people help shape how peers treat one another, while mentors help create the safety and support young people need when something is wrong.

For Young People BE A BUDDY.

Change the way people are treated around you.

Young people have influence. Mentors Against Bullying encourages youth to use that influence to make their spaces more respectful, encouraging, and inclusive.

Stop the Bullying. Do not participate in behavior meant to embarrass, isolate, intimidate, or tear someone down.
Encourage Someone. Use your words and actions to build confidence instead of becoming another negative voice.
Include People. Pay attention to the person being left out and help create room for them to belong.
Be a Positive Peer. Let the people around you know that respect, kindness, and support are the standard.
One Culture A young person should not have to wonder whether anyone noticed, cared, or was willing to stand beside them.

Be the person they know they can come to.

Our mentors help create safe, supportive relationships where youth can speak honestly, feel heard, and know someone is paying attention when they may be struggling.

Create Safety. Build a space where young people feel respected, heard, and comfortable asking for help.
Stay Present. Consistent presence helps youth know that support is more than something people only talk about.
Notice Changes. Pay attention to concerning changes or warning signs that a young person may be struggling or need additional support.
Help Them Reach Support. Stand beside the young person and help connect them with trusted adults or appropriate professional support when more help is needed.
For Mentors BE THERE.
Mentors Against Bullying
Youth change the culture. Mentors protect the space. Both make it harder for bullying to win.
Mentors Against Bullying
Presence Means Paying Attention
A Mentor's Presence Be close enough to notice when something changes.
Notice. Listen. Support.

Sometimes Support Starts With Noticing.

Bullying can affect more than what happens in a single moment. A young person may become quieter, pull away, behave differently, or simply seem unlike themselves. Our mentors are not expected to diagnose what is happening. They are expected to pay attention, stay available, and take concerns seriously.

Notice.

Pay attention to meaningful changes in behavior, mood, participation, or the way a young person interacts with the people around them.

Stay Close.

Create enough trust and consistency that a young person knows there is someone they can talk to when something does not feel right.

Get Support.

When there are concerns about a young person's safety or wellbeing, do not carry that concern alone. Bring in the appropriate trusted adults or professional support.

When Safety Is a Concern
Supporting youth also means knowing when the situation needs more than mentorship.

If a young person expresses thoughts of self harm, appears to be in immediate danger, or raises a serious safety concern, mentors should involve the appropriate responsible adult or emergency or professional support rather than trying to manage the situation alone.

Be Present
You do not have to have every answer to make sure a young person does not face a hard moment alone.
Mentors Against Bullying
Be a Buddy. Not a Bully.
What Will You Add to the Room?

Stop the Bullying. Build the Person.

Every young person deserves spaces where they can feel respected, included, and supported. That starts with young people choosing not to participate in bullying and adults choosing to remain present when support is needed. We may not control every interaction, but we can decide what we contribute to it.

Become a Mentor →
The Standard
For Youth Be a buddy, not a bully.
For Mentors Be the safe person they can come to.
For Everyone Notice. Encourage. Support.
Stop It Do not participate in the harm.
Change It Bring encouragement into the space.
Support Them Make sure someone knows they are not alone.
A safer culture starts with what each of us chooses to do next.
Be a Buddy. Not a Bully.
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